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Shyness in children |
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What is shyness?
Shyness is when children do not join in with others but they
would like to.
It can mean:
- not speaking to others, even when asked a
direct question
- not taking part in games and activities
- not going into places such as the school
playground unless they are with someone they know
- being very embarrassed if they get attention
- even good attention
What
causes shyness?
When children prefer to play alone it is not always because they
are shy; it can be for many different reasons. It can be that they
need some quiet time, that they are busy with a project or that
they are unwell or unhappy.
If they do not seem to have any friends at all and this goes on,
it is worth talking to a health professional about it because
there may be reasons that could be helped.
Some reasons for shyness include:
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being "born shy" - some babies
seem to be more "sensitive" and easily frightened from birth on
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the whole family do not relate
easily to other people - shy parents are more likely to have shy
children - but not always
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the child may be afraid to be
separated from the people he knows best - this is common in the
preschool years
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the child may have lived
fairly quietly in early childhood and not have had the
opportunity to meet many other people, so the world seems more
scary until he gets used to it
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a child who has not had many
children to play with may be shy with children at first, but
quite at ease with adults
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some children are afraid of
doing the wrong thing or making a mistake if they join in
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the child has been pushed to
do things before he was ready to - too high expectations
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the child has very fearful
parents, who try very hard to protect him but this can make him
afraid of the world
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the child has been ill-treated
and is fearful
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the child has a disability or
hearing loss that makes social life more difficult for him
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the child is very much more
interested in things than in people, or does not seem to be able
to understand how to relate to others - this can be caused by a
developmental problem and if it happens most of the time, needs
to be checked by a health professional. (The topic 'Asperger
Syndrome' has information about one type of developmental
problem which causes difficulty with relationships.)
Most babies between about 6
months and 3 years old are "shy" in that they are afraid of
strangers and likely to cling to the people they know well. This
is a normal part of developing trust in a scary world. By the time
they are three or four most children want to join in and play with
others, at least some of the time.
What's good and what's
hard about shyness?
The good
- Shy children often do well at school because
they concentrate on their school work
- Shy children are not likely to get into
trouble for misbehaving.
- Shy children are often liked by adults
because they are easy to care for.
- Shy children are often liked by children
because they are not aggressive.
- Shy children are often good listeners.
The hard
- Shy children may be unhappy and lonely.
- They do not get practice in learning to get
on with others.
- They are often overlooked by teachers and
other adults.
- Shyness can cause stress which leads to
physical problems such as tummy aches and headaches.
- Shy children may miss out on lots of
opportunities.
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